Another Side Question: Is Life about a Pretty Picture?

This is an interesting point. 

People often look at us through microscopes, telescopes, cameras, webcams and cyberspace.  They do almost everything to avoid a real contact and instead create a pretty picture in their head about us.  And thus, most people are only interested in their pretty picture and not really interested in the true person behind the picture.

It's known as objectification.

Once, at my job, I was stared at for an hour and 45 minutes by someone as they created all these pictures in their head, then asked me out.  It was very unpleasant.  I've had my crazy moments, we all have, so I could have compassion for the person, but we all have to learn not to do that, to try to grow up and speak to each other as adults.

Real adults have a real conversation and don't approach people at work.  A real conversation goes something like, "Hi, I'd like to get to know you better, but you are at work.  Is there a way I can reach you outside of work?"  It's a hard thing to be straightforward, but it's best.

Real people have flaws.  Some flaws are gross, but funny.  And if all you see is the picture and not know the person, then you can't appreciate the truth of the situation at all; much less the depth of the person.  For an joke-able, but real example, let's look at nose picking:   :-}

Sufis will pick their nose, if it needs to be cleaned and there is no water nearby.  Muslims will to.  However, most do it five times a day and thus don't need to do it outside of prayer time.  Cleaning the nose is actually prescribed in the Qur'an, and most people (religious or otherwise) will do it unconsciously.  This is actually a cute point because a study once showed that most Christian kids, who pick their nose, do it at church during the first 15 minutes, then settle down and don't do it for the rest of the day. 

This point is an attempted look at the thin line joining humor, truth and perspective.  :-}  If you only look from the outside in, then you see an ugly picture of someone picking their nose and balk at it.  If you look from the inside out, then you see someone highly conscious (to the point of being unconscious) of keeping their body clean, yet not having the right means in which to do it.  Every "Ear, Nose and Throat" doctor will tell you that the best way to avoid infections (colds and flu) is to flush the nose with salt water or fresh water, but to avoid chlorinated water.  Keeping the nose clean reduces locations for viruses and bacteria to breed.

When we make people objects by making them a pretty picture, then we miss the depth of who they are and are often mystified as to why they are doing something.
 
So the Question today is:  When will You Reach Out and Talk to Those You Love? 
 
Take the mystery out of your relationships by asking the questions to things you don't understand. It can be fun and enjoyable if you approach it the right way.  After all, everyone has picked their nose and scratched their pattootie at least once in their life!  Lol!