A Different Kind of Question; Go Home?

Why do we tell those we Love to go home?

Fascinating to see how a dog acts when told to go home. Casey was a beautiful Orange Chow mix. A brute of a dog designed to fend off Golden Monkeys in China. Yet brought up here in American he was a kind, gentle soul - plagued by loneliness and panic attacks. I once told him to go home - believing that he would easily go to his Best Friend's house (His master by our standards). I forgot the true meaning of the word Home. Casey didn't. He looked at me with a question, looked across the valley floor, saw his Home and began walking. Little did I know that he took my dog Sophie with him. Eventually, my son's Godfather told us that he got a call from his old Landlord. Casey and Sophie had gone to the one location Casey felt at peace - his Home - the River...

Now I did it because I was busy with human stupidity and felt that Casey was simply lonely and needed to be with his Best Friend. I forgot that I too was friend and Casey had come to visit us; his extended family. I value animals as true, beautiful life forms, but on occasion I've been human enough to forget the bonds I make and keep them well Loved. Casey taught me something important that day. So did Sophie, friends don't let lonely friends walk alone...

As for people, that seems to be a different story. When humans tell Loved ones to go home, it's because they are afraid. Not for themselves, but for the other. They simply don't want the other person to get hurt. They think they are being noble and honorable in sending away those they love. They often miss the entire first point.

Other times they are simply afraid for both Hearts. If I let this person in, then I might get hurt again. I might not be strong enough to handle it. But my Love certainly is not strong enough. Again, they miss the second point.

Sometimes they send Loved ones away because they have a unique belief system that says, [everyone that comes into contact with me dies, or gets hurt, or becomes unlucky, or falls from grace]. The sending home is a way of protecting others and full-filling the self-created prophesy. Yet again, they miss the third point.

Each Adult is capable of making their own decisions. We don't make decisions for others.
THE FIRST POINT:
Respecting fellow adults means that we respect the choice they make to come into our lives.

As Casey made a choice to come visit us. He then made a choice to go home. He was 14, approximately 98 in human years. Who was I to think that he wasn't old enough to make his own decision?
THE SECOND POINT:
An Adult is an Adult. Don't make them into children. Don't make their bed, wipe their nose, or decide where they should be.  Let them choose, because its there choice.

If part of your Karma is to learn how to deal with grief, then consider this your lucky kick in the pants! Go get books on grief and learn to deal with it. Self-help or Intuitive books are amazing on this topic. However, most holy books mention quite clearly reincarnation (the Bible, the Qur'an, etc...). They will live again. I personally have chosen not to reincarnate, perhaps I will change my mind. I can not see how anyone can live without hope of touching those they Love again.
THE THIRD POINT:
Stop all self-full-filling prophesies.

And that's the ENTIRE POINT. Touching each other physically and sliding our Souls and our Hearts along each others Chi is the reason for being here on this plane. Every time we send others away, we are only hurting ourselves and creating the problem in the first place.

Just now, my Pharaoh's Hound Cooper asked me to come play. I sent him away so I could write this blog, but pretty soon we will go play. We will walk, and commiserate on the heat, then I will shake him down to loosen his fur, I will gently tug on his huge ears and make a little fun of them, and last I will pull his tail and he will try to go for the crown jewels (thankfully I'm a girl), patootie and wrists and all in all we will have a wonderful experience called (Love, Friendship and Affection) and he will know that I am here for him. And he is here for me.

How could I do any less for the Humans I Love...

So, do not send me Home, but instead, Come and Join me...